I don’t know about you, but every time I hear the term ‘ladies night’, all I can do is picture Jon Lovitz’s scene stealing rendition in The Wedding Singer.
Tonight, our plan was to head out to hear a friend of ours sing with her band. We have heard her sing at church and family gatherings….but never with her band, which I have wanted to do for a while now(she is much, much better than Jimmie Moore). Due to festivities surrounding my bonus kid’s birthday, I was suggesting to my husband that we change those plans in order to be more prepared. This morning, he told me that I should go on my own and he would hold down the fort. He said, “It’s mostly the ladies going anyway, you could use a night out”. That got me to thinking….I am not sure when the last time I had a night out with the girls was.
Every once in a while, I go shopping with a friend or sit and chat on their sofa….but it is usually a one on one, low-key type of thing….but ladies night is not something I do very often. The last time I actually went out with ‘the girls’ was well before Michael and I got married…..so, about 5 years ago. The last time I attempted it, was 2 Christmas’ ago, while visiting my sisters up north. The kiddo had such a severe meltdown, I sent my sisters without me and spent the evening with my mom, kiddo and nieces playing board games.
Such is the life as a parent of a special needs child. Sometimes, even if I am able to make plans, they fly out the window in a moments notice. On the rare times I have made it out of the house, I would worry and check my phone on a regular basis to make sure that all is well. It is definitely getting better as CJ ages and is becoming more independent, but I think my body and mind is use to this life we have lived for so long. Thinking that I have a free night is something that I can’t really wrap my head around.
I have about 5 hours to decide if I am going to take him up on his offer. We will see if I venture out or stay in my safe zone.