“If you don’t tell me what’s wrong, I can’t help you find a solution.”…..I have found myself saying that to my son a lot in recent months. As parents of children with special needs, we tend to always be on the search for solutions to our kiddos challenges…..but how often do we search for solutions to our own challenges?
One of the things that has helped me in recent years was finding a caregiver’s support group. I am going to be honest, in the beginning, I felt guilty. Up until then, my ‘alone time’ was grocery shopping by myself……but that was still doing something for my family. Once I started going to support group, I was taking a couple of hours a month to do something for myself. After a while, though, I realized that I wasn’t just doing it for me, I was doing it for everyone in my family. It helped me to express my feelings to other people who understood what my life was like. It helped me to relate to my son better. It helped me and my husband communicate better.
There are so many of us that don’t have a great personal support system. When our child was diagnosed with a mental illness or neurological disorder, many of our family members or friends simply didn’t understand. Our child’s school didn’t understand. There were even medical professionals that didn’t understand. Once you are sitting in a room with a group of people who have been in your shoes, it can be a life altering experience.
If you are in a situation where you do not have a support system around you, it is important to find the support you need using alternate avenues. There are many ways to do that. I am listing a few links that can help you find resources or support groups in your area. Please take time for you, so you can take care of them.
Here in Georgia: