I was going to be clever and write an article about 13 reasons why parents should be watching 13 reasons why, but I can’t. I can’t consciously give you 13 reasons to watch this show, I can only give you 1……because your kids are watching it.
That’s right, whether you know it or not, your kids are watching. Even if you told them not to, your kids are watching. It is the new trend, the new fad, the newest thing to do when they hang out. The difference is that this isn’t as harmless as making homemade slime or flipping water bottles. This could have lasting effects and you should know about it and discuss it.
For parents who don’t know, 13 Reasons Why is a Netflix series based on a book about a girl who commits suicide and leaves behind audio tapes to multiple people explaining the part they played in death. It is harmful. Not simply the actions of the characters prior to her death, but their actions toward each other after receiving the tapes.
I am sure you want to know why your kids are watching this. Well, because their friends are, is probably the main reason….because there is a highly publicized death scene, might be a reason….there are also multiple rape scenes……are you scared yet that this is what your kids are viewing? I was, too. I was especially afraid because I have a 17 year old with mental illness, who has a history of suicidal ideation.
I work in mental health education and I knew I should watch it for work purposes, but I also knew that if I watched it, it would pop up on my watch list. I didn’t want my son to see that……so I delayed for a couple of weeks, debating. Then, my son came to me. He said that he had been watching reaction videos about the show on YouTube and wanted to watch the series, but thought he should discuss it with me first. He and his friends had been discussing it and he knew of a friend’s parents who had forbidden their children from viewing it…..so of course their children were rebelling and watching at other friend’s homes.
My first thought was “Thank God we have open communication and he knew he could discuss this with me” my second thought was “Hell no, you can’t watch that”…….luckily, they were both in my head. We sat down and had a deep conversation about my concerns and came up with a plan. We would both watch it, with him starting after I finished the first episode. I ended up binge watching it in a day to get it over with. He planned on starting the next day, but after I gave him my review and heavily discussed the plotline, he didn’t feel the need to watch it. The good thing is, I’m prepared if he changes his mind and decides to.
My advice, be open with your kids. Don’t shut them down. Find out if they are watching this show and discuss it. It is an important conversation to have. Bullying, LGBTQ issues, rape, suicide, and mental health challenges in general are all issues that are approached in this show and not represented in healthy ways. If they are watching it, you need to be able to let them know they can come to you with questions to get the right solutions to teen challenges…….because this show gives a lot of the wrong ones. Until we can talk to our kids in an honest way about these things, they won’t trust us enough to come to us when they are happening in the real world……… instead of just on screen.
*My thoughts are not the thoughts of my employer Mental Health America of GA