Navigating life with a teenager….who happens to have bipolar disorder

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My Film Fantasy Life

Today’s DP Challenge both excited and frustrated me.

You get to spend a day inside your favorite movie. Tell us which one it is — and what happens to you while you’re there.

So here’s the challenge for me.  I LOVE movies. Picking just one is crazy hard for me……and to pick one that I would want to be a part of for a day, even harder. So, I decided to take this challenge by age.

5-10 :  Anything Muppets related.  I would have loved to hang out with Kermit at Pete’s Diner to be served soup by Rizzo and I know it’s not a movie exactly, but when I was little I wanted to live with Wembley and Mokey down in Fraggle Rock (clap clap).

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Dance Your Cares Away

10-15 : I wanted to be a Goonie so bad.  To go on an adventure to find One-eyed Willie was my dream.  If I was inside the Goon-docks for a day, the 12 year old girl in me would probably knock out that whiner, Andy, so I could kiss Mikey in the cave, because it will be our time…..our time down here.

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Maybe this is the reason I prefer Samwise to Frodo

15-20 : My late teens was when I found my true love for old movie musicals. Kiss Me Kate is still one of my all time favorites.  If I could live in that movie for a day, it would bring my teen dream to life by making me a broadway star……that would get to sing and dance my way through Shakespeare (another one of loves I met when I was a teenager). I think I would make sure to be hanging out in the alley so I could sing ‘Brush Up Your Shakespeare’ with Slug and Lippy.

kiss me kate

Dance with Fosse? Yes, Please

20-25 : Stage Door, it is said to be one of Katherine Hepburn’s worst movies….it happens to be one of my favorites.  Oh, to spend a day at auditions with the likes of Ginger Rogers and Lucille Ball. Since I only get one day, I would definitely spend it towards the beginning of the movie…..I would not want to stick around for the devastating sadness at the end (you’ll have to watch to find out).

Stage door

 The calla lilies are in bloom again

25-30 :  Oh, to go on an adventure with Ben Gates in National Treasure.  Which day to pick, though??? As much as I hate heights, I would have to travel down the stairs beneath Parkington Lane.  To find and then roam the treasure room would be overwhelming and amazing.

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The secret lies with Charlotte

30- present : Please let me take the Hogwarts express.  I would love to spend a day with my classmates in Hogsmead or catch a Quidditch game…..but truthfully, my Harry Potter dream is to get lost in the room of requirement and inspect all of the treasures within.  It may sound boring to all of the magic loving, adventure seeking witches and wizards out there, but seriously, think about all of the magical history in that room.  The Universal theme park has done it’s best to recreate the movie….but sifting through the wonders of room of requirement is not one of them.

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Eat your heart out Ben Gates

Really though,  getting to spend a day inside a movie is not necessary. Anybody has the ability to lose themselves in these worlds while simply sitting on your sofa.  If you don’t, then maybe you’re not watching movies the right way.

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Wise Words of Albus Dumbledore

The Harry Potter series is a favorite in our house. Starting with The Goblet of fire, every time a movie came out my son and I had a date night.  We were very sad when the movies ended, but we have them all on disc and usually end up watching them whenever ABC Family has a Harry Potter weekend.

I always wondered if my son connected with the series because of the life altering aspect found in the first movie.  Harry found out that the very thing that made him different in the muggle world is normal in the wizarding world.  All of these strange things he could do didn’t mean there was something wrong with him.  I think my son found that fascinating. He is different and has never quite fit in, but maybe there is another time and place where he does and he just needs  Hagrid to come let him know.

This happened to be a Harry Potter weekend, so last night, as I lay in bed, I turned on the end of Deathly Hallows. There was a line after Voldemort’s horcrux was killed in Harry and he sees Dumbledore in a glowing white version of Kings Cross Station. Harry asks “Is this real or has it been happening inside my head?”, Dumbledore replies “Of course it’s happening inside in your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean it isn’t real?”

I think we, as parents, tend to forget how our kid’s brain works.  It can get exhausting and frustrating to live with a child with a mental illness or neurological disorder.  They have fears and anxiety that we may find silly. Because of this, they do or say things we don’t understand.  What we have to remember is that even though it’s in their head, it’s very real to them.

In my son’s case, if he perceives it he believes it, regardless of attempts to convince him otherwise.  If somebody speaks to him in a negative tone, in his mind that person hates him.  Not dislikes, not irritated by, not annoyed with, but HATES him. Yes, capitalization is required for the drama that comes along with the line ‘but Mama my teacher HATES me.’ (this applies to just about anyone, but I hear ‘teacher’ more often than the rest).

He also thinks that by keeping his room cluttered, it will protect him in case of a break-in.  You know, because if they get passed the locked doors and the alarm system, make their way upstairs without us hearing them and all the way to the very end of the hall where my son’s room is…..YuGiOh cards and BeyBlades on the floor will stop them.  Ridiculous, yes, all in his head, yes, but very real to him.

Here is our challenge.  As special as these kids are, and as wonderful as their own little wizarding worlds may be, they can’t go hide in a castle.  They will have to live and work among the muggles that don’t understand them.  How do we do that and still be sensitive about what is real to them?  This keeps me up at night.